The Bishop of West Buganda, Rt. Rev. Gaster Nsereko, has strongly condemned domestic violence, calling on married couples to embrace peaceful conflict resolution, mutual understanding and open communication to prevent violence and the breakdown of families.
The Bishop stressed the urgent need to address the growing challenges affecting families before the situation deteriorates further, noting that domestic violence continues to have devastating consequences, including murder, broken homes and the neglect of children.
He described marriage as a profound institution whose full meaning cannot be explained by any single individual. He observed that there is no universal formula for a successful marriage, emphasising that couples must continuously learn, adapt and grow together despite the challenges they encounter.
According to Bishop Nsereko, marriage can be both simple and enjoyable, but equally complex. He noted that even couples who have been married for 30, 40 or 50 years remain learners because every new day presents fresh lessons in their marital journey.
He urged couples experiencing disagreements to take personal responsibility by examining their individual contributions to the conflict and working together to find lasting solutions.
Using an example, he explained that if a husband contributes 85 per cent to a marital problem and the wife 15 per cent, both partners should honestly assess their roles and take the necessary steps towards resolving the disagreement.
The Bishop made the remarks at the headquarters of Misanvu Archdeaconry in Kibinge Sub-county, Bukomansimbi District, during a function at which he confirmed 78 children into the Christian faith, solemnised the marriages of nine couples, commissioned the Archdeaconry house and celebrated the 50th birthday of Canon Patrick Ssimbwa.
During his address, Bishop Nsereko highlighted several factors that undermine marriages and often contribute to domestic violence and other tragic incidents in families.
Among the challenges he identified were infidelity, excessive alcohol consumption, uncontrolled anger and economic disparities between spouses, particularly where one partner earns significantly more than the other. He also pointed to differences in tribal backgrounds, cultures and levels of education as potential sources of misunderstanding when not properly managed.
He called upon couples to avoid destructive behaviours and attitudes, urging them to build homes founded on respect, understanding and peaceful coexistence.
The Bishop further observed that no marriage is 100 per cent perfect. He explained that couples celebrating decades of marriage are not necessarily celebrating a life without difficulties, but rather their ability to overcome challenges, remain committed to one another and sustain their relationship through difficult times.
He encouraged married couples to prioritise forgiveness, patience, selflessness and compassion whenever disagreements arise. Above all, he emphasised the importance of open and honest communication, saying these values are essential in preventing domestic violence and other acts of brutality within families.
Canon Ssimbwa Raises Concern Over Excessive Bride Price Demands
Meanwhile, the head of Misanvu Archdeaconry, Canon Patrick Ssimbwa, raised concern over what he described as a growing practice among some parents of frustrating their adult children’s plans to enter holy matrimony by imposing excessive bride price and wedding gift demands.
Canon Ssimbwa revealed that 11 couples had initially been preparing for marriage ahead of the ceremony. However, one couple was unable to proceed after their parents reportedly blocked the marriage at the last minute over demands for expensive wedding gifts and an excessive bride price.
He described the development as deeply distressing for the young couple, noting that such demands can frustrate the aspirations of young people who are ready to establish families.
Canon Ssimbwa appealed to parents to welcome their daughters’ prospective husbands and support their children’s decisions to marry, rather than making financial demands that could stand in the way of their future.
He emphasised that a daughter cannot be bought, regardless of the amount of bride price paid, and urged parents to approach marriage negotiations with understanding and goodwill.
The Archdeacon also thanked God for granting him the gift of life as he celebrated his 50th birthday. He expressed heartfelt appreciation to everyone who has supported him throughout his personal life and ministry.
